Did You Know...
In California, it is a crime for any person to threaten, beat, sexually assault or otherwise harm another person, even if they are married. Domestic violence is more than just a "family problem," it is a crime.
If You Become a Victim of Domestic Violence
Once violence has begun, it tends to increase in both frequency and severity. Understanding the psychological consequences of her violent relationship can help the woman take power and choose constructive alternatives, as well as aid those who intervene to help her.
The family violence cycle consists of three phases:
||During this phase, the woman senses her mate's increasing tension. He
is "edgy" and perhaps challenges her or tells her she is stupid,
incompetent, etc. The woman may internalize her appropriate anger at
the unfairness and experience physical effects such as depression,
tension, anxiety and headaches. As the tension in the relationship
increases, minor episodes of violence increase such as pinching,
slapping or shoving.
||The tension-building phase ends if/when there is an instance of intense
violence where the woman may or may not fight back. Following the
battering, she is likely to be in a state of physical and psychological
shock. The abuser may discount the episode and underestimate the
||During the last phase of the domestic violence cycle, both parties
typically have a sense of relief that “it's over." The man is often
apologetic for what happened and/or fearful that his partner will leave
him. He may "shower" her with love and praise that helps repair her
self-esteem. Sentiments from the abuser such as "I can't live without
you" may cause the victim to feel responsible for her abuser's
wellbeing, and she may blame herself for what led to the abuse.
While reasons range from children, love, guilt, fear, pride, embarrassment and/or financial dependence, it is very possible the victim is unaware that she is locked into a violence cycle.
Everyone has the right to be safe from threats and beatings, but you must take the first step. Once you recognize that it isn't your fault and that it is possible to change your situation, seek the help you need to correct your situation.
Help is available!
||wHAT TO DO
|If you're in danger||Call 9-1-1|
|If you're the victim of domestic violence
||Call the police and report the crime|
|For information about temporary shelter||Contact the House of Ruth at 909-988-5559|
|If you have been sexually assaulted
||You may obtain counseling services from Project Sister at
|24-hour referral information||Dial 2-1-1 or visit 211LA.org|
Contact the Los Angeles County Superior Court clerk at
A court order can: